Empty nest brings gifts and curses. In the last weeks, I have received emails and phone calls from parents feeling sad. One mom said she felt like an empty restaurant with so much good food to serve and no customers.
In the beginning weeks when kids go back to their lives, parents feel a relief that the mess is over, the late nights have ended, but they also miss the vitality and activities shared with someone they deeply love.
When we hug our kids goodbye we might feel sluggish, sad, and sensitive to the emptiness and at the same time glad to have our own routine and inner voice back without the interruptions of kids and their friends.
The older I get the more I am living with the realization that says, yes this is true AND so is that…paradoxes. It’s not easy living with the word AND rather than but.
I think it is ok to take some time to meander during a transition. Take time to simply do nothing and notice what you are noticing and hearing in your head. Are you hard on yourself for feeling nothing or wanting to do nothing?
How long does that last, a day, a week? Do you call a friend or find a comforting web to post a note? How do you care for yourself when you simply aren’t happy?
Branching out to you,