Living With Paradoxes In The Empty Nest
Parents have many good memories and when the house is more silent they emerge. I think we need to acknowledge what we love about our role and have self compassion for our new path.
I just can’t say it enough to myself and others…focus on yourself…make plans for you and implement them. We all get hurt feelings. I believe we need to express them, choose who we say it to, how we say, have a good cry, and then do something sweet for yourself.
Whether you get disappointed with your children not thinking about you, or your spouse or friends not being tender hearted, your feelings are real and here is the paradox….you can only change you.
We know that and it doesn’t mean you don’t ask for what you want or say what was hurtful towards you, but then focus back on what you can do.
Plan something comforting and fun for you…maybe it will be different than what you use to do and even out of your box, but it might also be invigorating.
I took an improvisational class and was terrified. I have never acted and was with professional and non-professional men and women. We wrote stories from the teacher’s prompts. I, of course loved that part of the day, but when she threw out a scene and said, “Jump in,” I said to myself, oh no, I can’t get up there and …. BUT I DID. The audience laughed and applauded. During other scenes, they cried. I felt so alive and surprised that these parts were within me. I even thought to myself, I could write and perform a one woman show. I’m funny and inspiring. Well, that was just a passing thought …passing being the reality.
Sometimes we need to say no and then a solid yes follows. Paradoxes…
Have you noticed them showing up more in your week?
Natalie
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