Spring is slowly showing herself. Parents have been sharing with me what they look forward to doing for fun. Most feel embarrassed to say it out loud, "I don't really know what I like doing that is simply for fun. I am such a worker bee, and doer." Can you relate?
Work is fun so that means shifting your perception about fun. Getting up and out the door to DO is fun. If the activity enlivens you, it is fun. If you look forward to it, that's fun.
Sitting at a café or park is fun for some. For others, it is boring.
Well you get the idea. You are on an exploration for fun. You get to change your mind. You might like something and then not.
At this stage of life, parents remind themselves that not knowing is actually a good thing. It leaves space for wonderment and coping. Not that we don't know how to cope since we have children who challenge us to keep on with love.
So what comes to mind for you, today, that might be fun?
1. Arts
2. Sports
3. Connecting with people, like your nieces, nephews, old friends from your past, neighbors, social event in your community?
4. Planning an event at your home
5. Learning a new skill
One mom shared with me that she loves having her English Breakfast tea and getting to explore what she wants to do that is just for her that Saturday.
One day she rented a bike and helmet, another she wrote love letters at a café, she planted seeds in her garden, she made chalk for gifts, and she went to a travel agent to dream big for one trip in 2010.
Another mom said she has to push herself to not be a hermit. She decided to make it simple and walk in her neighborhood bundled up looking for signs of spring. She took photos and emailed them to her relatives who were buried in snow with a note that said, "You could come for a three day visit"
Ask for help when you feel down or isolated. If you are frustrated that you are always the leader, ask someone else to lead or simply shift and do what comes easily to you, lead so you can have connections and sparks of internal spring.
Email me or leave a comment about what you are thinking would be fun in SPRING. Are you seeing any signs of spring in your neighborhood?
Take good care,
Natalie
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