My cat is the model of being persistent. I think that is why I chose her, and she is a cuddler. I, too, am persistent. Sophie, my cat, leaps to get water in vases more than her bowl. It doesn't matter how jammed the water is with my garden flowers, she pushes her face to get what she wants.
Initially when you are going through a change, persistence is limited.
Grieving for what was and no longer is, takes your energy into more stillness and a fog. That is normal and needed. But do you remember times that you were persistent? What did you go after and how did you do that?
I like to go out of the box when I feel I am stalled. I look in a different direction rather than what I have always done or what seems logical. Then, I send an email, I call, I even pop a note in the mail. I go to a "different window" if the window I have been trying to get into is jammed, closed to me, or unavailable.
So pushing when you need to be turning in another direction is intuitive. Comes with practice. Comes with stopping and asking what are you wanting and where is the availability? Are you knocking on a door that is closed? Are you not seeing what is real and have gotten propelled by fantasy or hope? Do you ask for help but ask the same person who hasn't been available.
Life is learning. We hear that all the time but we push it aside. We do learn from disappointments and joys. When I take the flowers away because I don't have any in the garden, Sophie goes to the bowl and is still satisfied.
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Take care,
Natalie
natalie@emptynestsupport.com
Los Angeles
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