I know that statement is obvious and when you read it, hopefully it serves as a reminder to keep a perspective.
Knowing who you are and who your child is, can be an entry into a better relationship as they prepare to leave or have left home sweet home.
Eloise isn't organized. She is more of an artist than an academic. Her parents are very academic, driven, and highly organized. They all like to go hiking together.
Take some time to notice what kind of personality you have:
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Do you ponder or leap.
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How does your child make decisions?
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Do you multitask or do tunnel focus?
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Do you like silence when you work or music?
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Are you chatty or an observer?
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You could even be a combination of personalities.
Putting your style on your children doesn't allow for mistakes, freedom, or new learning.
You know this and of course, you will forget, especially when the stacks are high or there is normal anxiety floating. You put your spin on things not because you are controlling but because you love them and don't want them to hurt. Hurt is a learning ignition that you just can't escape. Question is, can you recover?
Let them figure it out.
When you need to put the brakes on your runaway shoulds and what ifs and I told you so's, let nature give you clean air. Thus, the photo of the white rose.
I would love to hear from you, natalie@emptynestsupport.com
Los Angeles, CA.
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818-763-0188
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