In celebration of baby boomers , parenting, grand parenting, aunting, empty nesters , and those about to empty their nest, let's say who you are!
I have inner strength and compassion, frosted in humor and caked in curiosity. What would you say you have? Don't be shy about naming it.
Here is what other mothers told me:
• Beautiful thanks to my ancestors
• Care taker and love it
• Dancer and singer within
• Seeker of authenticity
• Gourmet cook, lousy cleaner
• Quirky thank goodness
• Geek to my kids
• Hugger and kisser
• Vulnerable and getting in shape for a marathon
• Productive and smart, thick in the middle
• Hard worker and flexible
• Painter and Kleenex holder for my sick kids
• Independent and sentimental
• Problem solver and leader
• Tennis player and taking no sides at home with the family arguments
• Headstrong and weepy
Over time different words surface of who you are. I believe we have many parts to us like the rooms of our home and the sounds of the orchestra. Some parts stay dormant until the space and silence of empty nest gives us depth to dive. How you view diving and what you find, is what keeps you afloat. We all have memories of terribly challenging times, as frequent as last night. What inner parts of you rise, again, even in tears? How do you care for yourself?
I don't think we make time to acknowledge who we are as mothers and women. Humans, who are just doing the best we can, and hoping for happiness and meaning.
Giving, for some, blooms happiness. Being busy, quieting your inner critic by stopping it from going on and on, getting outside, celebrating good memories, making plans with others, speaking up about your needs and feelings, art, travel, community, work, reading, praying, feeds happiness. Happiness is mothering and for some the shift in their role of mothering less, is a freedom they didn't know they longed to experience. Once a mother, always a mother. There are times you wish you could not be the responsible, being there when they call, and instead on a Tuesday or Saturday, be the receiver of the good parts of your children that their friends get have.
When did you experience those happy moments with your children? What do you look forward to in the mothering role? Do you have memories of being at peace as a mother, woman and human?
Reflection is healing and igniting.
It only takes ten minutes of your week. Dive in and reminisce on the beauty and dedication you give as MOTHER. Maybe dance it, draw it, sing it, walk it, as a different form of expression. Words might not be your form of expression this week. Play outside. Last week I walked to our neighborhood part and jumped on a swing. In my head I sang, "I'll love you forever, I'll love you for always, As long as I'm living my baby you'll be."
Mothers are earth and wings, anchors and ladders.
Keepers of WELCOME HOME.
What do you, MOTHER, need today?
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