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Empty Nest Mom Says Stop It

I am tired of being told to get over my missing my children.  It has been four days since I dropped them off at the airport.  Why can't I just say to all of them, STOP IT. I think that will be my journal entry for my back to school paper or that paper you write called, WHAT DID YOU DO THIS SUMMER.  I will say, I finally said, STOP IT.

Really it is time for me to grow up even more by saying what I need to say.  I seem to collapse when criticized. I get quiet.   I remember reading if I want to cry I get to cry.  That wasn't ok when I was a child. I am an adult now and I cry even if that makes other people uncomfortable.

I am more than a mom but right now I miss those kids talking in their rooms and yelling, What's For Dinner, Mom?" I just don't like the feeling of not knowing how they are .  I am mom.

Wouldn't it be great if someone would say, Ya I cry too.  Ya, you must be sad after all those days and nights in your life of being mom.  Ya, I don't know what that is like to not have my kids around since they are still in high school, but I don't want to think about it yet or I will cry.

There are so many caring things they could say.  

It is not as if I was a cry baby with my family or friends.  I just cry now.  I don't want to think about what I have to do or will do in a month that might be different.  I just want to miss them for a little while.  Who knows, I might like the emptiness of not having to do something with them or for them. 

So to you who hate when I cry, I say, STOP IT.  Stop trying to push my feelings down because you aren't feeling it.

Are you guys being told to stop it?

Thanks,
Stop It Mom