Empty Nest Support Services
I don't like the words BABY BOOMER or EMPTY NESTER
Who makes up these words that age us? Can you imagine Meryl Streep ever being called a BABY BOOMER? She probably is an empty nester but doesn't get that label either.
It is hard enough to love ourselves for the way we act and look without these childish labels. Yes I am older now. We all are.
My challenges aren't impossible. I get very lonely, sad, confused, and want to quite some days. Show me the money so I can be freer!
My children are adults. Thank goodness. I have more time to hear myself and make choices for my weekends. Yes, I deeply miss connecting with them and seeing their adorable faces, interesting talks, and energetic bounces through the house. I can't change that they are growing up. I can't make them call or come for holidays. Who ever thought we as parents could have that power? I did think that in the beginning of my life when they went to college. I don't anymore. I learned I had to live my life hour by hour and not expect from them. Bonus if my phone or email had a message.
I dream of living in a walking community with people who are at a similar availability. I want partnering and at the same time I am accepting solo time. My life is too important to waste on disappointments. Sure, I sob and tantrum but thank goodness I rise again.
I know people whose life has changed due to illness, pain and isolation with no answers, yet. My pain is real when it emerges whether in my head, heart, or body. I just keep gathering ways to cope. I let myself collapse to a movie in bed when I have little hope. I think one thing that catches me is friends who were there and aren't. Love that seemed strong and isn't. I have no answers for all that. I have no answers for why work, which I think is an honor and need, is so difficult to obtain, as we get older.
We hear do what you love. I think that, in the stage when children have left home, can be misleading. Do anything. In other countries people don't have as many choices to think and choose as we do. Pick something to try.
Boomer, empty nester, we are people who want to share and sing. Becoming invisible needs a tailor.
Thank you for listening.
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